He’s Revisiting The Breakup and Trying To Work on Things – If a breakup is particularly painful you might both want to forget about it and put it behind you and that would certainly be understandable. If you’re still talking after your breakup, though, then he may be sending you some distinct signs that he’s open to getting back together; starting with discussing what went wrong in the first place. Since most men loathe to examine their flaws, the fact that he’s actively discussing how things went bad may actually mean that he’s sorry for having hurt you and wants to understand exactly how he went wrong.
Of course, this doesn’t apply if he digs for explanations only to turn around and place the blame on you, but if he seems genuinely empathetic and open to correcting his mistakes then it’s pretty likely he’s thinking of getting back together with you. Even better is if he actively begins working on changing the things that you identify as his problem areas.
This is a pretty big indicator because it shows that he genuinely cares about how he hurt you and wants to do better. If he didn’t actually care about getting back together with you he wouldn’t be taking the time to make such an effort.
He’s Keeping In Contact And Talking About The Good Times – Again, the more harsh the breakup, the less likely he is to want to stay in contact afterward, so if he’s still making an attempt to call, text or stay in contact it’s a pretty good sign that he wants to get back together.By moving away from someone with whom you’ve had a bitter breakup, you can make a clean break, put the hurt out of your mind and focus on creating new experiences. It’s a natural human instinct.
Staying in contact, then, means that he isn’t quite content with that breakup and perhaps wants to keep things going. When he does talk to you, if he makes a point of talking about the good times you shared and the things that made your relationship work, that’s a significant sign that he’s missing what you had and wants to rekindle that flame. If he’s talking about the good times then it means he’s also thinking about them, something he wouldn’t bother to do if he just wanted to write you off for good.
Plus, people don’t usually miss things that were unpleasant, so if he’s missing what you had, then it means it was important to him. Perhaps even important enough to try and rebuild.
He’s Discussing His Future With You – No matter how amicable a breakup may be, chances are that you won’t want to discuss the future with someone who doesn’t appear to figure into it anymore. That’s why this is such a big indicator that he secretly wants to get back together. We’ve already determined that staying in touch and talking frequently are positive signs, but if he actually talks to you about his future that stands out even more. It means he cares enough about you to trust you with his future plans or even ask for your advice.
If he takes it one step further and includes you in those future plans then chances are he’s throwing some major hints that you still matter to him and he wants to be with you. Planning for the future isn’t something you do with a friend, no matter how good, it’s generally something you save for that special someone.
So even if things didn’t seem to work out, if he’s still talking about the future and you’re part of the picture, then you can be fairly sure that he’s secretly thinking of getting back together.
3 Ways To Tell If He Secretly Wants You Back
Breaking up is never easy, especially when you’ve invested time and emotions in a relationship and you felt like it was serious. Even if you were just beginning to get more serious it can really hurt to suddenly have things fall apart. If you’re like most people in that situation, you’re probably scratching your head and trying to figure out what went wrong. You may even be hoping that there might be some way that you can get back together. No matter how much you may want to rekindle things, it will be impossible to do so if he doesn’t feel the same way. Unfortunately, it can be hard to know just how he feels because men are notoriously bad at expressing their feelings, even when things are going well. But just because he’s not coming right out and saying it, that doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t want you back. As difficult as it may seem, you need to be aware of the signs he may be sending out that he secretly wants you back: