It’s happening in coffee shops all around the world right now – conversations between women that sound like this:
“Oh my God; I can’t believe how perfect we are for each other! I mean, he’s really something! He may even be perfect! I knew it the second I met him. I honestly think he’s ‘the one’ – my soul mate!”
In today’s newsletter, I’d like to discuss the topic of whether or not there really is such a thing as, “the one” when it comes to loving a man.
Some relationship experts assert that there may, in fact, be one person on the planet that was created to be the perfect match for you.
This person may be described as one who is in-tune with you on many different levels, including emotionally and spiritually.
Other relationship experts assert that to think that there is only one soul mate for you sets you up for disappointment and maybe even a failed relationship.
Soul Mate Advocates
Meeting “the one” or your soul mate is something most women desire.
Who wants to settle for anything less?
Women who seek a soul mate will describe him as one who is on the same level, has very similar interests, is compatible and simply “fits.”
There are professional match makers who believe that each person has a soul mate out there and it is up to them to search for that person.
With match makers and online dating websites, it is easier for women to put themselves out there to meet potential soul mates.
Dating sites allow you to put in your personality characteristics and interests as well as what you are seeking in a mate.
The chances of you finding your soul mate increase due to being able to search outside of your geographical region.
Those against “the One” Belief
Plenty of professionals and people disagree that there is such a thing as “the one” when it comes to a partner.
Stacy E. Hall, M.C., L.P.C. with Psychological Counseling Services, states that those who believe and wait for that magical soul mate to arrive are setting themselves up for disappointment and failure.
She asserts that those who believe that another person will somehow magically complete and fulfill them sets them up for unhappiness.
A deep connection with a partner is important, but the ability to form such a deep and intimate connection is possible with more than one person.
Plenty of women have formed such a relationship with more than one person in their lives.
The beginning of a relationship is exciting, passionate and emotional.
Ask a couple who has just fallen in love if they believe their partner is “the one,” and the answer will be a resounding, “YES”!
Four years later they may despise each other and break up.
The Reality of Making a Relationship Work
Whether you believe there is only one man for you or not is not that big of an issue.
What is important is that you realize that once the “love chemicals” begin to subside down the road, no matter how much you have in common or how deep your connection, your relationship will require work.
The divorce rate hovers around 50 percent. This is an indication that at least half of couples who thought they found “the one” were either wrong or did not know how to handle conflicts that arose.
Conflicts will come.
Annoying character defects will surface.
Hormones will bring on moody days.
To have a successful relationship, you must understand how to work through these issues.
Whether a man you meet is “the one” or not, educate yourself on the differences between men and women.
Learn about what works in relationships and what doesn’t. Go to the experts for advice and be willing to take it.
There are certainly differences between a man and a woman, and the more this fact is accepted, the more likely relationships will work.
No one wants to meet “the one” and allow insecurities, fear, jealousy or emotional baggage to ruin the relationship.
Do what you have to do to become whole so that you and your soul mate can enjoy the love journey together in bliss.
Don’t rely on a man to make you happy.
Be happy in and of yourself and allow that joy to radiate wherever you go.
I hope this newsletter has brought you key insights regarding the topic of soul mates and has helped you understand relationships a little better.
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